A man's account of being pressured by his prospective mother-in-law to buy an ultra-luxury Gangnam apartment and submit an extensive list of financial documents has sparked widespread outrage online.
A post titled "These are the asset-verification documents my future mother-in-law is demanding — is this even a marriage?" appeared on the online community Bobaedream on Monday. The author, identified only as A, wrote that the mother of a woman he met through a matchmaking introduction last year had made demands that left him feeling not just baffled but humiliated. He said the situation arose after the couple had dated for a period and agreed to marry.
The prospective mother-in-law had known A was a divorced man with a child before the introduction was arranged, yet she told him that her daughter — who had never been married — was "too good" for a divorced father. She also reportedly asked whether his child could be removed from the family registry. The child is currently in the custody of the biological mother.
Among the conditions she set for the marriage was a demand that A purchase one of the most expensive apartments in Banpo, Seoul, and put it in the bride-to-be's name. A said the mother described it as a necessary "safety net." He also received a separate list of financial documents she required him to produce. "Is she a loan shark running a credit check? Is this a corporate merger due-diligence review? What am I, a gold smuggler?" he wrote.
A said he still loves the woman. "I truly love her," he wrote, adding that he loves her so much he would be happy living in a semi-basement apartment. Yet the bride-to-be has been unable to refuse her mother's demands.
"She says she cannot betray her mother and get married," A wrote, asking readers for advice. "She is telling me to do what her mother is asking and then we can marry."
Commenters largely sided against the marriage. "It looks like she has already chosen her mother," one wrote. "The key point is that even though she says she loves you, she still wants you to give her mother what she wants," said another. "If this is all true, absolutely do not marry her," a third added. Some users, however, questioned the post's credibility, noting that the author had edited the timeline — initially describing the events as recent before changing the wording to indicate they had occurred last year.
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